- Raghad Ebied -
We are all inevitably going to face moments of disappointment in our life – disappointments from work, family, friends, and even ourselves. That’s the very nature of the world we live in – it’s not ideal, it’s not perfect and shortcomings are bound to happen from others and from ourselves.
The question is how do we deal with these disappointments – how do we reconcile our need to have fulfilling jobs and relationships and fulfill our own promises to ourselves when we as well as others are humans who can be weak and forgetful?
How do we forgive when we’re hurt? How do we “forget” when we need to move on? How do we overcome intense feelings of disappointment and sometimes disbelief about what happens around us?
For some people, they indeed feel everything so much more intensely – including joy and sorrow, pain and relief, disappointment and awe. Maybe their tears suddenly start to flow when they see a child crying because they had to say good bye to a loved one or lost something special. Maybe they worry a lot when they hear about family or friends going through a difficult time.
An ability to feel what others feel, to know how others feel, to support others through what they feel. Cherish this blessing. Certainly, do not feel ashamed of it. And use it to bring comfort to others.These are the emotions of compassion, of empathy and of sensitivity to those around you or what some may call the “Highly sensitive person” (HSP), which is actually found in 20% of our human population. Allah has bestowed you with a blessing that you can use to bring comfort to others.
The other side of this blessing though could be your sensitivity to negativity, criticism, and disappointment. Don’t feel guilty about minimizing these situations when you can help it – and if they can’t be minimized because they are a part of your daily life with family or work for example, one can learn how to manage them.









