Showing posts with label Character. Show all posts
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 Raghad Ebied -

We are all inevitably going to face moments of disappointment in our life – disappointments from work, family, friends, and even ourselves. That’s the very nature of the world we live in – it’s not ideal, it’s not perfect and shortcomings are bound to happen from others and from ourselves.
The question is how do we deal with these disappointments – how do we reconcile our need to have fulfilling jobs and relationships and fulfill our own promises to ourselves when we as well as others are humans who can be weak and forgetful?
How do we forgive when we’re hurt? How do we “forget” when we need to move on? How do we overcome intense feelings of disappointment and sometimes disbelief about what happens around us?
For some people, they indeed feel everything so much more intensely – including joy and sorrow, pain and relief, disappointment and awe. Maybe their tears suddenly start to flow when they see a child crying because they had to say good bye to a loved one or lost something special. Maybe they worry a lot when they hear about family or friends going through a difficult time.
An ability to feel what others feel, to know how others feel, to support others through what they feel. Cherish this blessing. Certainly, do not feel ashamed of it. And use it to bring comfort to others.These are the emotions of compassion, of empathy and of sensitivity to those around you or what some may call the “Highly sensitive person” (HSP), which is actually found in 20% of our human population. Allah has bestowed you with a blessing that you can use to bring comfort to others.
The other side of this blessing though could be your sensitivity to negativity, criticism, and disappointment. Don’t feel guilty about minimizing these situations when you can help it – and if they can’t be minimized because they are a part of your daily life with family or work for example, one can learn how to manage them.
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- by Dr. Muzammil Siddiqui -


Allaah has granted intellect to human beings. The intellect entails responsibility. The more intellect a person has, the more he/she is responsible.
When the intellect is missing, the responsibility is also not there. Little children are not held responsible, because their intellect has not yet developed. The insane are not responsible, because they have lost the intellectual capacity. However, part of our being human is also that we make mistakes. Sometime we make mistakes without deliberation and intention. But sometime we knowingly and deliberately sin and do wrong to others.
It is said: “To err is human and to forgive is divine.” Both parts of this statement are very true. As human beings we are responsible, but we do also make mistakes and we are constantly in need of forgiveness.
Islam speaks about two elements of forgiveness:
a) Allaah’s forgiveness;
b) Human forgiveness. We need both, because we do wrong in our relations to Allaah as well as in our relations to each other.
There are many names of Allaah given in the Qur’an. They are called “Most beautiful names” and they indicate many different and diverse attributes and qualities of Allaah. Some of these names are related to His mercy and forgiveness. Let us look at some of these names:
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KATA Imam al-Ghazali, lidah antara nikmat Allah SWT yang besar dan antara ciptaan Tuhan yang amat halus dan ganjil. Lidah mempunyai bentuk yang indah, kecil dan menarik.
Selanjutnya Imam al-Ghazali berkata: “Keimanan dan kekufuran seseorang tiada terang dan jelas, selain dengan kesaksian lidah. Lidah mempunyai ketaatan yang besar dan mempunyai dosa besar pula. Anggota tubuh yang paling derhaka kepada manusia ialah lidah. Sesungguhnya lidah alat perangkap syaitan yang paling jitu untuk menjerumuskan manusia.”
Daripada kata Imam al-Ghazali itu jelas menunjukkan kepada kita besarnya peranan lidah dalam kehidupan manusia kerana lidah kita boleh masuk syurga dan kerana lidah juga boleh dihumban kita ke neraka.
Oleh kerana lidah boleh membawa kebaikan dan keburukan dalam hidup manusia, kita perlu sentiasa berwaspada menggunakan lidah sewaktu bertutur kata. Dengan kata lain, kita hendaklah bijak menggunakan lidah apabila bercakap.
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- by President PAS -


ALLAH berfirman yang bermaksud, "Dan mereka mengingkarinya secara zalim dan sombong angkuh, sedang hati mereka meyakini kebenarannya. Oleh itu, lihatlah bagaimana kesudahan orang-orang yang melakukan kerosakan." (Surah al-Naml:14)

Lihatlah bagaimana kesudahan Firaun, Namrud, Hamman, Qarun, kaum Luth, 'Ad, Thamud dan lain-lain apabila mereka menentang Allah dan rasul-rasul yang diutuskan di kalangan mereka.

Kesimpulannya yang dimaksudkan dengan ayat ini bahawa golongan munafik dan kuffar tersebut, pandai bermuka-muka pada sepanjang zaman.

Mereka menzahirkan keimanan di hadapan manusia dan menyembunyikan kekufuran jauh di sudut hati mereka. Manusia tidak ketahui Allah Maha Mengetahuinya.
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Wahai wanita..
Sesungguhnya kejadianmu terlalu unik,tercipta dari tulang rusuk. Adam yang bengkok menghiasi taman-taman indah lantas menjadi perhatian sang kumbang, kau umpama sekuntum bunga, harum aromamu menarik sang kumbang untuk mendekatimu. Namun, bukan semua bunga mampu menarik kumbang jika terdapat cacat cela.
wanita idaman lelaki
Jadi, antara ciri~ciri wanita idaman lelaki adalah :
1. Berpegang Kepada Agama
Wanita yang berpegang kepada agama mempunyai keperibadian yang unggul. Batas-batas syariat yang dipegang dan terpelihara dalam hidupnya mengangkat martabat dirinya sebagai seorang yang layak dikagumi oleh lelaki.
Dia tidak akan melakukan sesuatu yang bertentangan dengan syariah Islam. Memang beruntung mana-mana lelaki yang beristeri dengan wanita sebegini.

2. Kecantikan Dalaman
Wanita yang tulen adalah lemah lembut dalam perwatakannya tetapi mempunyai prinsip dalam hidup. Inilah kecantikan dalaman yang dicari oleh ramai lelaki. Kalau cantik, tu dikira sebagai BONUS.
Wanita yang mempunyai kecantikan dalaman tidak akan sesekali menjual maruah dirinya hanya untuk mencari nama dan wang. Mereka tidak akan sesekali tunduk pada nafsu atau berbuat sesuatu semata-mata kerana mahukan harta dan kekayaan.
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Rasulullah (sal Allahu alaihi WA sallam) said:“Keep away from ill-thinking/suspicions because ill-thinking is the greatest falsehood.” [Sahih Bukhari]
During the Abbasid period one of the scholars in Baghdad was greeted by an acquaintance who said,"Do you know what I just heard about your friend?"
Scholar:  "Hold on a minute, before telling me anything I'd like you to pass a little test. It's called the Triple Filter Test."
The Man: "Triple Filter Test?"
Scholar: "That's right, before you talk to me about my friend it might be a good idea to take a moment and filter what you're going to say. That's why I call it the triple filter test. The first filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?"
The Man: "No, actually I just heard about it and ..."
Scholar: "All right, so you don't really know if it's true or not. Now let's try the second filter, the filter of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my friend something good?"
The Man: "No, on the contrary..."
Scholar: "So, you want to tell me something bad about him, but you're not certain it's true. You may still pass the test though, because there's one filter left: The filter of Usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my friend going to be useful to me?"
The Man: "No, not really."
Scholar: "Well, if what you want to tell me is neither true nor good nor even useful, why tell it to me at all?"
Allah (subhana WA ta’ala) asks us:
 "O you who believe! Avoid much suspicions, indeed some suspicions are sins. And spy not, neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh (meat) of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting). And fear Allah. Verily, Allah is the One Who accepts repentance, the Most Merciful." [Quran 49:12]
Let's pass our intended speech through the triple filter test before we madly utter our every thought. And lets subject others to the triple filter test too before we hear any number of damaging things from them.
- Source blog.iloveallaah.com -
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- By Ibn al-Qayyim -



Because the heart is described as possessing life or death, it is classified into three types:

The First: The Correct and Sound Heart.

This is the truthful and secure (salīm) heart, the only type of heart that its owner can bring to Allāh which will rescue him on the Day of Judgement [from the Grievous Punishment]. Allāh, the Exalted says,
“The Day when neither wealth nor sons will avail, except he who brings to Allāh a truthful and secure heart.” [1]
The meaning of salīm (secure) is sālim (the one who is secure), it has come in this form because it depicts an innate attribute or description of the described. As such it is grammatically like the words tall (tawīl), short (qasīr) or graceful and charming (dharīf).
Therefore the one whose heart is described as salīm is characterised so because this attribute of truthfulness and security has become a constant and established description of it. In this respect it is like the terms, ‘the one who knows’ (‘alīm) and ‘the one who has power’ (qadīr). It is also the opposite of diseased (marīḍ), sick (saqīm) and ailing (‘alīl).
The statements of the people explaining the meaning of the secure and truthful heart have differed. However they all revolve around the [following] basic concept,
[The truthful and secure heart] is that which is secure from every carnal desire that opposes the order and prohibition of Allāh. It is secure from every doubt and uncertainty that would obscure or go against His narrative. It is secure from displaying servitude to any other than He just as it is secure from seeking the ruling of other than His Messenger (ṣallallāhu `alayhi wa-sallam). Therefore it becomes secure through loving Allāh and seeking the ruling of His Messenger. It becomes secure through showing Him dread (khawf), reverential hope (rajā’), placing its trust and reliance upon Him (tawakkul), turning to Him in repentance (inābah), humbling itself before Him (dhull), preferring what pleases Him in every circumstance and distancing itself from everything that would displease Him in every possible way. This is the reality of servitude (‘ubūdiyyah) which can only be directed to Allāh, Alone.
Therefore the truthful and secure heart is that heart which is secure from committing any form of shirk whatsoever and instead its servitude is only directed to, and purely for Allāh, the Exalted. Its desire, love, trust and reliance, repentance, humbleness, dread and reverential hope is only for Allāh and its actions are purely for His sake. Hence if it loves, it loves for the sake of Allāh; if it hates, it hates for the sake of Allāh; if it gives, it gives for the sake of Allāh; and if it withholds, it withholds for the sake of Allāh.
But this alone does not suffice until the heart becomes secure from submitting to, and going to anybody else but the Messenger of Allāh (ṣallallāhu `alayhi wa-sallam) for judgement. Therefore the heart ties a firm bond with him (ṣallallāhu `alayhi wa-sallam), resolving to follow him and obey him alone in sayings and actions. These sayings comprise the saying of the heart – which are the matters of belief, and the sayings of the tongue – which conveys what the heart contains. These actions comprise the actions of the heart – which refer to its desire, love, dislike and other connected matters, and the actions of the limbs.
Therefore the judge for all these matters – the major and minor of them – is that which the Messenger (ṣallallāhu `alayhi wa-sallam) came with. Hence the heart does not put itself before him in any matter related to belief, saying and action. Allāh, the Exalted says,
“O you who believe! Do not put yourself forward in front of Allāh and His Messenger.” [2]
meaning: do not speak [of a matter] until he has spoken of it and do not act until he has commanded it.
Some of the Salaf said,
There is no action, even if it be small, except that two records will be unfurled for it: why? and how?
meaning: why did you do it? How did you do it?
The first question enquires about the cause, onset and motive of the action. Was it done for some temporary, worldly gain or for some worldly purpose such as attaining the praise of people? Was it done for fear of the blame of people, to attain some worldly desire, or to repress some worldly dislike? Or was the motivation of this action the establishment of the rights of servitude [to Allāh], the seeking of increasing ones love of and closeness to Allāh, the Glorious and Exalted, and seeking the means of drawing close (wasīlah) to Him?
The essence of this question is: was it upon you to perform this action for the sake of your Master or did you perform it for some personal gain or by way of following your base desires?
The second question enquires about the following of the Messenger (ṣallallāhu `alayhi wa-sallam) in that action of worship. Meaning: was that action you did from those actions which have been legislated for you upon the tongue of the Messenger or was it an action that he did not legislate and was not pleased with?
Therefore the first question concerns sincerity (ikhlāş) and the second concerns following (mutāba‘ah) for indeed Allāh does not accept any action until both these pre-requisites are met.
The method of absolution from the first question is to purify ones sincerity such that it is for Allāh Alone.
The method of absolution from the second question is to actualise the following of the Messenger (ṣallallāhu `alayhi wa-sallam) and by securing the heart from any intent that would impair its sincerity and any base desire that would impair its following.
This is the reality of the secure and truthful heart from which ensues victory and bliss.

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- By Yasir Qadhi -


Many people mistakenly assume that true wealth and real treasure is that of money. It is indeed true that wealth is a great blessing from Allāh which He bestows upon His servants. And the one who earns it purely, and spends it properly, and gives it to those that deserve it, without a doubt earns a great reward from Allāh.
But at the same time, wealth is not the greatest blessing that can be given to mankind. Furthermore, no matter how much wealth a person has, eventually it will leave him, and pass on into the hands of others.
The Prophet (ṣallallāhu `alayhi wa-sallam) reminded us of this when he asked the Companions, "Who amongst you loves the money of his inheritors more than his own money?" [1]
They replied, "O Messenger of Allāh! There is no one of us except that he loves his own money more than he loves the money of his inheritors." So the Prophet (ṣallallāhu `alayhi wa-sallam) replied, "But his money is only that which he sent forth, and the money of his inheritors is what he left behind." [2]
So in reality most of the money that a person owns will eventually end up in the hands of his or her inheritors, and only that part which was spent for the sake of Allāh will actually benefit one in the hereafter.
Allāh emphasizes this point in the Qur'ān with the teaching that,
"Wealth and children are the adornments of the life of this world. But the permanent righteous deeds are better in your Lord's Sight (to attain) rewards, and better in respect of hope."[Sūrah al-Kahf, 46]
So money and children can be a comfort and a pleasure of this life, but righteous deeds are what will remain permanently — not one's family or wealth. It is these righteous deeds which will bring a person Allāh's Pleasure, and through which a person can hope for an ever-lasting reward in the Hereafter. The Qur'ān clearly states,
"And it is not your wealth, nor your children that bring you nearer to Us, but only he (will please Us) who believes, and does righteous deeds; for such (people), there will be a double reward for what they did, and they will reside in the high dwellings (of Paradise), in peace and security." [Sūrah Sabā', 37]
The great student of Ibn `Abbās (raḍiyallāhu anhu), Qatādah as-Sadūsī, said commenting on this verse,
"So do not judge people based on the amount of money and children they have! Even a disbeliever might be given money, whereas the Muslim has been withheld from it. [3]
In a well-known and oft-repeated parable, the Qur'ān compares the life of this world to a crop that flourishes after rainfall, only to wither up and shrivel in a short period of time. The Qur'ān states,
"Realize that the life of this world is only play and amusement, pomp and mutual boasting among you, and rivalry in respect of wealth and children. It is like the vegetation (that sprouts forth) after rain, whose growth is pleasing to the disbeliever. Soon it dries up, and you see it turning yellow, then it becomes straw. But in the Hereafter (there is) a severe torment (for the disbelievers), and (there is) forgiveness from Allāh and (His) Good Pleasure (for the believers). And indeed, the life of this world is only a deceiving enjoyment." [Sūrah Ḥadīd, 20]
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-by Raheel Adnan -

It has been observed that sometimes people find it difficult to differentiate between self-confidence and pride. Self-confidence is finding inspiration within oneself to do good while pride is believing oneself to be better than others and humiliating others through words or actions. Pride demands a loud voice; self-confidence is quiet and unassuming. Although there is a narrow difference between self-motivation and pride. Yet a well defined line exists between self confidence and arrogance.  It has reported in Saheh Muslim (Book 1 : Hadith 164)
It Is narrated on the authority of Abdullah bin Mas’ud (RA) that the Apostle of Allah (may peace be upon him), said: “He who has in his heart the weight of a mustard seed of pride shall not enter Paradise.” A person (amongst his hearers) said: “Verily a person loves that his dress should be fine, and his shoes should be fine.” He (the Holy Prophet) remarked: “Verily, Allah is Graceful and He loves Grace. Pride is disdaining the truth (out of self-conceit) and contempt for the people.” [Saheh Muslim (Book 1 : Hadith 164)]
Islam is the religion of Modesty and Humility. It teaches us doing good deeds without trying to get noticed or show off. But at the same time, Islam teaches us to keep our energy level up since confidence has always played a vital role in every success. A worldly failure or mocking attitude may possibly make us feel down. Also, looking at those who stand at a higher rank in wealth, beauty, power or success, can make us feel inferior and we might start disregarding gifts of Allah. But Prophet (Peace be upon him) taught us.
Abu Huraira (RA) reported Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying:
“Look at those who stand at a lower level than you but don’t look at those who stand at a higher level than you, for this would make the favours (conferred upon you by Allah) insignificant (in your eyes).” [Saheh Muslim : Book 42 : Hadith 7070]
May Allah protect us from pride and guide us to be thankful beings. Amin
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"It is from a man's good character that he should converse with his friends whilst he is smiling."

- Habib ibn Abi Thabit (d. 199 AH)