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Showing posts with label Halal. Show all posts
8 ways of finding the right person to marry
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Marriage is never an easy thing. We think of it as this amazing romantic bliss that we will somehow attain one day.
Sisters dream of marrying that amazing brother who has the character of the Messenger of Allaah (sallAllaahu 'alayhi wa sallam), the Eemaan of Aboo Bakr, the courage of Hamzah, the wealth of 'AbdiRahmaan bin 'Awf but the fact still remains, everyone wants to marry that one truly amazing person and it is not much different for guys.
We wish to bump into a Hoor al-'Een that has lost her way from Jannah. I mean why wouldn't that ever happen? It won't happen, because you are daydreaming bro that's why.
Now wake up and listen to this short lesson in some important "Do's and Dont's" along with other useful information inshaaAllaah.

#8 AVOID FACEBOOK SPOUSES
And any other social network for that matter
Since we spend most of our time online these days, it is very easy to try to fulfil all our needs online, even the need of finding a soul mate. Now don't get me wrong, there are marriages who actually do work out, and I am not by any means hating on brothers and sisters who made it work (whatever floats your boats akhis and ukthis, just keep it halaal), but let's face it, the Internet is a very weird place.
Everyone always tries to seem holier than they really are, even a Kaafir could pretend to be Muslim scholar for all you know.  In the good old days people married other people who they actually knew, and life was much more smooth, in very broad terms.
But today you marry someone who comes across as religious online only to find out on your wedding night he isn't really that strict on Salah, oh and did I mention he has tons of friends who just happen to be girls? And not to mention he smokes (sorry forgot to tell you that too, my bad) the point is, be very careful concerning ANY online proposals.
If the person is serious and a good guy, drop them your wali's number and don't communicate with them anymore, then you'll know if the person is really a gentleman or not.
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Love which ends in marriage – is it haraam?
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Is love that ends in marriage haraam?
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
 The relationship that develops between a man and a non-mahram woman, which people call “love” is a combination of haraam things that transgress shar’i and moral limits.
No wise person will doubt that this relationship is haraam, because it involves a man being alone with a non-mahram woman, looking at her, touching her, kissing, and speaking words filled with love and admiration, which provokes desire.
This relationship may lead to things that are more serious than that, as is happening nowadays.
We have mentioned a number of these haraam things in the answer to question no. 84089.
Secondly: 
Studies have shown that most of the marriages that are based on prior love between a man and woman fail, whereas most marriages that are not based on haraam relationships, which people call “traditional marriages”, succeed.
In a field study done by a French sociologist, the conclusion was:
Marriage is more likely to succeed when the two parties did not fall in love before marriage.
In another study of 1500 families, undertaken by Professor Isma’eel ‘Abd al-Baari, the conclusion was that more than 75% of love marriages ended in divorce, whilst the rate among traditional marriages – those which were not based on prior love – was less than 5%.
We can mention the most important causes of this outcome: 
1-    Emotion blinds one to seeing faults and dealing with them, as it is said: “Love is blind”. One or both parties may have faults that make them unsuitable for the other, but those faults only become apparent after marriage.
2-    The lovers may think that life is an unending journey of love, so we see that they only speak of love and dreams, etc. They never speak about the problems of life and how to deal with them. This notion is destroyed after marriage, when they are confronted with the problems and responsibilities of life.
3-    The lovers are not used to debate and discussion, rather they are used to sacrifice and compromise in order to please the other party. Often they have arguments because each party wants to compromise and please the other. Then the opposite happens after marriage, and their arguments lead to a problem, as each one is used to the other agreeing with him or her, without any argument.
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Tiada Cinta Sebelum Kahwin
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Cinta yang bertandang di lubuk hati itu adalah fitrah. Namun, apabila ia disusuli tindak-tanduk yang tidak Allah redai, ia bertukar menjadi fitnah. Allah SWT memahami fitrah ini dengan mensyariatkan perkahwinan. Justeru itu, untuk apa menikmati cinta sebelum perkahwinan? bimbang-bimbang ia akan menjadi hambar selepas perkahwinan, hilang barakah, hilangnya kemanisan selepas perkahwinan.

Hadis:
"Sesiapa yang jatuh cinta, kemudian menyembunyikannya hingga kematian datang menjemputnya, maka dia adalah seorang yang syahid"

Hadis lain:
"Sesiapa yang jatuh cinta, lalu dia memelihara kesucian dirinya dan bersabar hingga meninggal dunia, maka dia adalah seorang yang syahid"

BAHAYA CINTA SEBELUM KAHWIN
  • Pasti kelak diriku ibarat lembu yang ditarik hidung oleh nafsu.
  • Menyibukkan hati merindui makhluk yang tidak halal bagiku seumpama membuka pintu bagi syaitan menjalankan jarumnya untuk melupakanku daripada-Nya.
  • Hati akan terseksa dengan barah rindu.
  • Rindu palsu akan membelenggu minda hingga ia terjajah dan terhina di bawah jajahan syaitan.
  • Cinta lalai akan menyebabkanku alpa daripada mempersiapkan diri untuk keperluan dunia dan akhirat.
  • Aku boleh menjadi tidak rasional berfikir jika benar-benar mabuk cinta.
  • Fitnah cinta ibarat racun yang akan membunuh akal, jiwa dan perasaan.
  • Jiwaku terganggu dalam menilai mana yang baik, mana yang buruk untuk diriku.
  • Jika aku dan dia berjaya melangkah ke alam rumah tangga nescaya ia terbina atas dasar maksiat, yang mengundang padah kepada peribadi zuriat kami pastinya.
Daripada Abu Hurairah r.a bahawa Nabi SAW bersabda:
"Dinikahi wanita itu kerana empat perkara : kerana hartanya dan kerana keturunannya dan kerana kecantikannya dan kerana agamanya maka pilihlah yang mempunyai(mengamalkan) agama, ia menyenangkan kamu"

*petikan daripada buku Pemilik Cintaku Setelah ALLAH & RASUL
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